Consuelo Lacey Loomis

Consuelo Lacey Loomis, formally known as Pinky, was a character whose life was filled with immense love for not only her family and friends, but for parties, competition, cartwheels, stories with no end, chats with strangers, sunrises, and simply life itself. She is already so deeply missed - the Cape has lost a little bit of its light without her in it.
   Pinky had a quick wit and wise soul. She was an artist, an educator, an athlete, a flirt, a dancer, an icebreaker, a racquet player, a croquet player, a coach, a grandmother to ten and mother to four.  She often remarked that she and her late husband Arthur had a “beautiful, wonderful, full life,” and anyone who was lucky enough to know them would whole heartedly agree.
Pinky began her life in a delivery room in New Jersey on December 18th, 1936, swathed in pink. From that day on she was known to her three brothers as “Pinky,” and began to live a vibrant, storied life. She taught elementary education across New England, found love on the Jersey Shore, traveled the world, raised a family and two handfuls of grandchildren, developed and coached a top ranking women’s lacrosse program, and was a proud resident of Chatham for 51 years.
In her young adult life, Pinky attended high school in Butler, New Jersey and earned a degree in Business Education at Pace College, as well as her BS in Elementary Education at William Paterson College. In New York City, she had various careers, including working for the US Trust Company, assisting the Director of Admissions at the Buckley School, and working in Advertising, Sales and Marketing for Garden Design Magazine. With her degrees, she pursued careers as a first grade teacher at the Kiel School (NJ) and the Brooks School (MA).
Prior to Connie and Arthur’s retirement to Chatham, the two raised their family in Chatham, New Jersey and New Canaan, Connecticut.
Connie was an influential changemaker in women’s sports for the area, and acted as the Varsity Coach and Director of the New Canaan Women’s Lacrosse team for over a decade. She was responsible for the entire lacrosse program, which, to this day, is consistently ranked as one of the best in the country. Her legacy is now honored in the New Canaan Hall of Fame.
In addition, she was the Director and Founder of New Canaan Sports Council Girls Lacrosse Camp, coached the JV Lacrosse team for 5 years, and was also a volunteer coordinator at the New Canaan Nature Center. Connie was the epitome of a woman with an indomitable spirit -  and never took “no” for an answer.
In Chatham, Pinky worked for the Orvis Sports Store and multiple galleries, including the Falconer, Munson, Nickerson and Steve Lyons Gallery. She was co-chair of the first and second Hookers Ball in 2000 for the Cape Cod Commercial Hook Fishermen’s Association, the publicity chair for Chase Park Croquet Club, the VP of the Chatham Platform Tennis  Club, and she volunteered at the Monomoy National Wildlife Refuge, talking to visitors from all over the world, sharing her love for the town she called home. Needless to say, if life is a cup, she made sure it overfloweth.
Consuelo Lacey Loomis passed away on the early morning of September 16th, 2026, in the comfort of her home surrounded by family. She is survived by her (still) equally athletic and flirtatious daughters: Samantha Loomis, Meredith Loomis Fry, Andrea Loomis Towey and Cary Loomis Woods, her son-in-laws Shanon St.Pierre and Jeffrey Woods, her ten grandchildren Taylor and Caley Fry, Seamus St. Pierre, Griffin and Jordan Paterson, Hannah, Emmet and Mae Towey, Skylar and Wyatt Woods, and her brothers, Gerry, Eddie and Michael Lacey.
A celebration of life will be held at Eastward Ho Country Club on Sunday, November 22, 2026 from 3-5:30pm. In lieu of flowers, please consider donating to the Johns Hopkins Center for Indigenous Health (@cih.jhu.edu). If you would like to celebrate her in your memory, take after Pinky: Grab a bloody mary after a once-in-a-blue-moon visit to church. Read. Swim in the sea. Dance with strangers. Spend some time with friends. Invite someone over for tea. Give unbiased advice. Be someone your grandkids not only look up to or aspire to be, but adore. Volunteer or just be involved in your local community. Be funny, independent, and unapologetically yourself. Love hard, but flirt harder. This is your life, and it’s the only one you got. Know that and celebrate it. Pinky sure did.